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Saying No Without The Guilt

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It’s one of the hardest things to do, saying “no” to our children. As parents, we want to give everything to our children. It’s very hard to say “no” to those desperate eyes piercing right through us. But we know, deep down, we have to say it.

When It’s Time To Say No

There are a lot of reasons why it’s so hard to say “no” to our kids. Based on my experience, I would rather just give in so that I wouldn’t have to argue. It’s quite tiring to argue.

Another reason why I have a hard time saying “no” is because I don’t want my kids to feel deprived. As a parent, I want to make it better for my kids. As much as possible, I want them to have a better life. Giving them everything they want is a way for me to make it better. But, of course, that’s not exactly ideal parenting.

According to Stacy Johnson of Money Talks News, it’s okay to say no to our kids. Even if they’re hard to resist, it’s okay to say the two-letter word to our kids most especially if our budget can’t accommodate what they want. This takes a lot of explaining but we need to do it. By not giving in to every single whim of our children, we are building their character.

Helpful Tips To Say “No”

Here are some great tips to help us say “no”. I’m sure these tips will come in handy for us, parents.

Give an alternative, not an ultimatum. When kids want something and they can’t get it, they either cry or throw a tantrum. One of our most common mistakes is to give them an ultimatum. So we resort to saying something like, “If you don’t stop crying, you’ll be grounded.” So instead of giving an ultimatum, we should give an alternative.

Brief them before going to the mall. Kids usually want to buy something when they go to the mall. Stacy Johnson suggests this.

“Explain before you go what you’re there to get and this trip won’t involve something for them. But offer to take them another day so they can use their own money to buy something.”

I find this a very creative way of saying “no” because it really doesn’t require us to that two-letter word.

Take some time to communicate, instead of saying “no” immediately. Again, Stacy Johnson recommend that we do this.

“What you need to do is ask the child why they want what they want and then explain why it’s not just possible right now. The key is to be positive but firm.”

This takes a lot of effort and it can be tiring. But I think our kids deserve to know why they can’t buy something at that moment. So instead of sending a negative impact by saying “no”, we should really set them aside so that we can talk to them properly.

These tips don’t really make us say “no”. But they all pretty much sum up to the word “no”. That said, we can finally “say no’ without the guilt.